Tuesday, May 14, 2024

Mary Elizabeth “Betsy” Graham, 72

Oaklyn, NJ -- Mary Elizabeth “Betsy” Graham, 72, of Oaklyn, passed away peacefully at home on Saturday, May 11, 2024, with her daughters by her side after a brief, but painful, journey with melanoma. She was born on April 7, 1952, in Wellsville to the late James H. and Mary E. (Cregan) Graham.

Betsy graduated from the Immaculate Conception School as one of the last 9th grade classes with, from what we understand, several other Marys. She graduated from Wellsville High School in 1970 andremained friends with many classmates all these years. She recently enjoyed reconnecting at the class reunions.

Betsy loved spending summers at the lake, Rushford in her youth and more recently Chautauqua Lake. She was the perpetual organizer for the lake weeks and even enjoyed a jet ski ride last summer. She loved to waterski back in the day, but also learned to love slow, easy rides around the lake or watching the kids tubing. She loved to play cards, travel, make Thanksgiving dinner, spend time with family and friends, listen to audiobooks, and go to the movies. She was kind and loving, funny and silly, dependable, and supportive, and truly indulgent as a Nana.

Betsy worked hard all her life in various construction businesses and found value in a job well done.  She was married to Stephen R. Allen of Wellsville from 1974 to 1993, and together they created Albros Builders. Steve and Betsy checked in on each other often in the last few years and made family gatherings easy for their daughters and grandchildren. The Allens embraced her always and she always loved the Allens.  

She is survived by her daughters, Julie Allen (Teresa Love) of Stuttgart, Germany, and Maureen (Paul) Hillen of Oaklyn, NJ, and her grandchildren Lucas Dwyer-Allen, and Benjamin, Jackson, and Claire Hillen. She is survived by her sister Patricia Sweeney of Wellsville, and brothers Richard (Netta) Graham of Westford, MA, Paul Graham of Westfield NY, and David (Wendy) Graham of Westfield NY. She also leaves behind many beloved nieces and nephews, cousins, forever family Tara Dwyer, and many friends.

In addition to her parents, she was predeceased by her brother-in-law Terry Sweeney, and her best friend of 65 years, Mary Fagan.

Friends are invited to call on Monday, May 20, 2024, from 10 – 11 am at the Immaculate Conception Church, 36 Maple Avenue, Wellsville, NY 14895. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 11 am in church. Burial will be in Sacred Heart Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, please consider donations to St. Rose of Lima Catholic School in Haddon Height, NJ. She was a member of St. Rose of Lima Parish. To leave online condolences please visit www.embserfuneralhome.com.

14 comments:

  1. Tina Case WightmanMay 14, 2024 at 3:27 PM

    A truly beautiful person. My prayers are with her friends and family.

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  2. Patty, I'm so sorry for your loss. Betsy was a kind soul

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  3. Thoughts and prayers for the family , she was a great lady .

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  4. To Betsy family, I am sincerely sorry for the loss of your beloved Betsy. We were classmates at ICS through the 9th grade. Mary and Betsy were certainly inseparable. I was so proud of her in high school achieving many awards and honors. Our class of 1970 was the best ever, and I will miss her dearly. Kindest Regards, Marie Schiavi

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  5. Tom and Cathy NeugentMay 14, 2024 at 6:44 PM

    Our sincere condolences to her family and friends. Healing prayers and hugs sent your way

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  6. Patty,
    I am shocked to learn of Betsy’s death. I am holding you close in thoughts and prayers. Betsy was such a fun person! We loved having her as an “Honorary Spindle,” too. She was always full of laughter and that’s how I will always remember her.May she rest in eternal peace with Mary. 🙏🙏🙏
    Thinking of you with love.
    Marlee Cannon

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  7. Prayers for her family and friends.

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  8. Such a sad event for a more wonderful lady. My heart felt condolences to the family.

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  9. Sad for the loss of such a fine person. Condolences to the family

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  10. We were so sorry to hear of Betsey’s suffering and her death. She was such a sweet person and had such a great sense of humor, she will be truly missed. Prayers for her family. George and Nancy Johnson

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  11. I write this with a very heavy heart. I have fond memories of “the girls” (Betsy, Mary and others) camping on Rushford Lake. Oh, the laughter…the lake will never be the same. Not fair. Sue Lester

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  12. To Paul and your family,
    May Betsy rest in peace.
    Bill Schiavi

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  13. Cindy Johnson HostetterMay 15, 2024 at 5:41 PM

    I am so sorry - she was a kind person and always had a smile.

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  14. Betsy was a lovely person and a loyal soldier to me, she tremendously shared her love of her family proudly with her laughter, she was amazing. My deepest condolences. Paul Bell

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